the bridal party
"Until the very end" — Harry Potter And The Deathly Hallows
If I only had these people as my friends for the rest of my life, I would be perfectly content. They are my PEOPLE. Friendships spanning a whole lifetime, to those that have felt like a lifetime since the moment we met. Friends that turn into family. Family, but friends by choice. Friends that get you through the absolute worst moments of your life. Friends that are there to celebrate the milestones. Friends that were there to stand next to you to celebrate the biggest moment of your life. To these ladies (and men), we couldn't have done this day without you, and to say we had the time of our lives is an understatement.
At the same time that friendships come together in special times, it doesn't exempt you from friendships falling apart. You have friendships that are real and that will stand the test of time, and the ones that will fade. I feel like when you enter your later twenties, at least for me, you no longer have the mindset to hold onto artificial friendships. You cannot simply say because you're getting married that you can ignore the things or moments that hurt you, in the deepest kind of ways. The reason I bring all of this up, and as all of my closest friends know, I had to end a decade long friendship during our engagement, right before our wedding. There was no one gigantic thing that caused it all to go south, or will I shed the details here, but many many things, let downs if you will, that added up to break my heart. I was hurt in a way that I could not simply be near this person on my wedding day, as that should be the happiest day of your life, not one where anger has any chance to slip in. I have had many people who are engaged ask me about how I went about this and I recommend to anyone who is going through something similar, do not hesitate to make the day about you. Even when it hurts, it's often better to move on.
Today, I have no regrets on the matter. Our wedding day was filled with real friendships and more laughter than I could have imagined. If there's any chance this person is reading this, I still wish you all the best and I hope you know how deeply you hurt me and how much you let me down. I never wanted things to end up this way.
To Mallory, Tori, Laine, Kim, Taylor, Ashton, Erin and Erica: I love you all with my whole heart. My only wish is that I didn't live so far away so I could hug your necks more, have too many St. Germaine cocktails with, get red wine spilt on us at the bar and uncomfortable encounters to follow, or my favorite...laugh until we cry...literal tears. You eight beautiful women bring me more joy than you could ever imagine. Thank you for being mine.
The ladies wore the fleur dress from BLHDN and the other dress was also from BHLDN but they are not carrying it anymore! I chose two mixed colors that went well together and although I did not personally wear these dresses, they were extremely comfortable for the ladies involved!
These handsome men all wore the Slim Fit Traveler Suit from Jos A. Bank. The groomsmen's ties were from express in burgundy. Rustin's tie was different, as I wanted him to stand out as the groom. I was velvet and I completely died for it. I ordered it from REISS and they no longer have in stock, yet still have gorgeous things.
All I can say is to any bride and groom planning and deciding who to put in your wedding party, surround yourself with the ones you love the most, and there will simply be no regrets.
Until next time, hug the necks of the friends that matter most!